There is nothing worse than noticing the disappointment and frustration on your child’s face after a bad round or a bad tournament.
In this or any sport, it is inevitable to have this kind of experiences and for a young one to understand that can be very difficult. However, this is the perfect opportunity for you as their role model to step up your parenting game.
You know your child better than anyone else does, and you probably understand what is the best way to approach him/her in fragile situations. But, you can slowly incorporate a few of these steps in your approach and no doubt you will see positive changes!
1. Understanding: Be sure to check with you kid to see if you are right about what you think it’s going on. Sometimes it is not about the bad round or mediocre day golfing wise, but about other situations they might have encountered such as, not liking their playing partners, exhaustion/insolation, stress about other responsibilities, etc.
2. Empathy vs. Agreeing: Empathy does not mean you agree or condone. It simply means you understand the child’s perception. You can share times when you have felt or behaved similarly in or out of the golf course. This will bring their image of you more to their level and will feel more comfortable receiving you advice!
3. What’s Your Take? Now that you have connected and created a more comfortable environment, your kid will be ready to listen to what you have to say.
4. Solution: First, give him/her a chance to solve the problem or to think about what they can do to prevent it from happening in the future. If this is too hard for your child yet, then share with him some ideas. Slowly but surely you will be raising a great kid and athlete!
Keep in mind that the toughest times for your children are often going to offer the best opportunities to help them grow in character, maturity and mental toughness.
By: World Junior Golf