Hotshot, overconfident, presumptuous; these are just some of the words that almost no one wishes to hear people speak about them. Because of this, it is easy to be afraid of being self-confident.
You must know by know that this sport requires a great amount of self-belief to improve at a steady pace, and if you are afraid of showing that you believe in your skills and capabilities because of what people might say of you, then you won’t get very far…
So what’s the difference? How are you confident without being cocky?
- Being Confident: This is a constant feeling of well-being, you are happy with yourself, yet you do not consider that others are beneath you. You fell grateful for what you have or can do and people can be around you with no problem.
- Being Cocky: This is a boastful attitude, you might know that you are very good at what you do, but you also wish others to do worse than you in golf and in life in general. You only relate with those you consider ‘good enough’ to be around you and you give credit only to yourself for your success.
Now, this two are examples and you do not have to fit perfectly on the definition to be cocky or confident, it is just to help you know if you incline more towards cockiness or confidence…
To work on your confidence you can do the following:
- Acknowledge your weaknesses as well as your strengths: A hotshot will never take the guilt, any mistake or barrier he or she might face, the blame will go anywhere but to themselves. If you are confident, you know that you have things to work on yet; you embrace mistakes and continuously learn new things.
- Practice: The only way you will get good enough to have confidence in what you do, is to practice. This is almost common knowledge in sports, especially golf.
- Who do you hang out with? The people that you surround with are just as important as who you are as a person. They have a direct influence on what you think and feel whether you like it or not. There is always one friend that tends to be a little overconfident, this is normal. However, if every person you hang out with has an arrogant attitude, there is a high chance you have adopted some of their ‘attributes’…
One last thing… You can’t control what how other people feel about you, if you are honest, grateful and humble with your abilities and self-belief, and you still feel hatred from other people then you will know that they are the ones lacking confidence!
By: World Junior Golf